A dog's best friend is not his owner. It is the human being to whom he is attached.
Do you have what it takes to win the trust of your dog?
What about trust of your human friend?
It might be easy to see how human friends can help a dog when he’s lonely, insecure, or hurt. It might be easier to understand a dog’s needs than human needs. Yet most of the time, it’s best to go through channels to deal with dogs. If you’re the kind of person who tries to see the world through the eyes of a dog, then keep reading. You might learn some things you didn’t know.
I was told by one of the most successful dog trners of our time that one of the most important things a trner can do for his dog is create a safe environment for the dog to feel accepted. Without his dog’s acceptance, his dog’s trning will never take off and his dog will never truly trust his owner. For all of us who live with dogs, whether humans or dogs, creating a home and a safe place in our homes is the single most important thing a dog can have. We all need to feel comfortable in our homes. And we all know that a human presence in the house — for some of us, a lot of the time — can also help make a place safe.
Trust the people who do love you unconditionally, no matter how difficult you have been to them.
Trust the people who will never ask you to do anything for them that they wouldn’t be happy doing themselves, and that they would never make you do things that were too dangerous.
Trust your family and friends.
The question for each of us is: what are we doing to deserve the trust of our own dogs? What have we done to deserve the trust of the people who love us unconditionally?
My own answer to this question comes from a conversation I had in the summer of 2012 with my dear friend Lisa Reneau who is the most patient and most loving person I’ve ever known, and to whom I would be honored to have my dogs’ names. She told me this: “You love and trust your children, don’t you?”
I replied that of course I do.
And she sd, “Well, then, don’t you ever let anyone make your child feel like she or he isn’t good enough. And if you have to, get up and leave a family event, you just stand up and you go and you sit in the car and you’re not in the car for an hour. Because that’s what it would take to make your child feel as though she or he is not good enough.”
And if I’m ever asked to make a choice between my own self-preservation and my children’s self-preservation, I don’t hesitate a second to choose my children. If it means losing money or the trust of someone I love, it is not worth it.
It’s not worth it. And I know that.
It’s not worth it.
We all know that.
You know that.
All you have to do is take a few moments to read about the life and death of the family dog, Sadie. The girl who trusted her human as no other animal would.
So you know you shouldn’t ever let anyone ever make you feel like you’re not good enough. You’re not.
And you know that.
But you also know that we all make choices every day of our lives that we know and feel is wrong. But we choose to make it anyway. Because we need money. We need food. We need a place to sleep.
But you know you’re worth it. You know that.
Your children know that.
And that’s why I’m writing to you.
I’m writing to you because there are others like you.
There are more of you.
A lot more of you.
There is no good reason why I should not be able to be home with my children for Christmas.
There is no good reason why I should not be able to be home for the holidays.
But it’s more than that. It’s not just about myself and my feelings. It’s about the feelings of my children and the joy and laughter I know that they are feeling right now with each other. Because they know that there is no reason that I should not be there with them. They know that I will love and spoil them and do anything that they need me to do.
But you know that. And because you know that, you’re going to do something that needs to be done.
You’re going to do your best to make sure that this holiday is a happy one.
For you and your children and your family.
Because there is no reason that I shouldn’t be there for this.
I’m not one of those people. I’m not someone who is angry or bitter.
I’m not angry or bitter right now.
I am however, scared.
And so, so many other emotions.
Because I’ve given my heart and my soul to this fight. And I’m giving all of myself to the cause and it feels like I’m losing myself as well.
But if it’s any consolation, I’m not the only one who feels this way. My wife is having a really tough time right now, because she knows that there is a small part of me that is missing right now and it’s not me.
But I’m back soon and I’m going to spend as much time as possible with them.
But you know that.
And you know that you’re going to be missing me when I’m not there.
So just know that you’re not alone and you know that I’ll be there as soon as I can.
I’m glad that you’re still fighting for me and the campgn and you should know that I have no love for Trump but you know that I will not support any campgn that does not support you.
And if you and I are ever in the same area, let’s spend some time together.